I'm For Me

We've all heard it ladies, men's often times harsh and unnecessary opinions of what we wear. I've heard that wearing too much makeup is lying to men, I've heard so many unwanted opinions from men about my hair, my clothes, or my makeup I could scream. It has happened all through school and even now. I get all dressed and ready to go to school or go out wherever I am headed and ether once I get where I'm going or often times before I even make it out the door, I start hearing about it. There is something wrong somewhere. "You messed up your hair," when it's purposefully disheveled. "Why is that shaped that way?" If something is asymmetrical. "That doesn't match," if I wear anything other than denim and a plain shirt or a black or white shirt with whatever pants. "You're just going to school/the mall/a cookout/whatever casual situation, isn't that a bit much?" In regards to anything with personality at all, even as small as a piece of jewelry or accessory. And I know we have all seen those really stupid articles about trends that men hate, like we care.

Now, imagine with me a world in which women dress for themselves. In which when we get ourselves done up, we do it so we feel confident and powerful. A world where confidence is our best trait and we want to wear it everywhere so we make ourselves look the way we think makes us attractive. What if a woman wanted someone in her life who accepted her as she is and thought she was most beautiful when she was happy and feeling good about herself? Can you picture it? I hope so, because that is reality my friend

I do my hair and makeup and change my outfit three times in the morning whether I am going to see my husband at all that day or not, so therefore I'm not dressing for him. I am married, so I'm not dressing for anyone else. I am dressing for me. I love feeling confident. I love when I can go out and be myself. I sing, I dance, I talk a lot, I'm loud, I love myself and I am a strong and outgoing woman. Or at least, I am when I feel good about myself. So when I get ready, I make myself feel awesome so I can be myself authentically. So what kick do you get out of making me feel bad? What sick thrill is that for you? Additionally, guys, I just took forever to get ready and you are waiting on me so we can go, right? Okay I'm done, time to go, finally! But, I'm wearing a peplum and you think that looks like maternity wear, and you think you need to tell me that before we leave. Well congratulations now I feel insecure in my favorite outfit and I need to change now because wherever we go I am going to feel eyes on me when their aren't any and I'm not going to be fabulous. So now I need to change and I hope you have a book to read because you're going to be waiting another thirty minutes while I get changed.

Once more let me say this, unless I ask you what you think of my outfit, I literally was not looking for your approval. Guys, not everything a woman does revolves around you. You're not this supreme ultimate force. I don't care if you like it or not I just want to feel good, so let me. This has been a very important PSA.